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Originally Posted by DP_2017
The reason I’m posting, isn’t for people to tell me if they like my T or
if they think he was “unethical” or for people to tell me to see another,
but to ask, any advice on dealing with the feeling of suddenly everything
feels fake and meaningless, on my own. I can’t even really sit and think
about the fun times we had because all I think of now was “well he
was at work, it meant nothing to him” and it’s driving me crazy. I WANT
to have that hopeful/semi happy feeling about it all again.
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First, DP_2017, I hear you. Having lost my T in Sept., was losing a significant relationship for me, and sometimes I feel like all her care was in my head and "not real". So in some ways, I can relate to what you are feeling. Not exactly, but similarly.
As for dealing with the feeling of everything being fake and meaningless, that's a hard one. I think it's good you are reaching out on PC because others have probably been through similar situations and may have suggestions. For me, I've been sleeping a lot, that's how I'm coping. It's not a great coping method, but it's not as bad as my normal coping methods. I do think time and distance gives a different perspective and yours may swing more towards the middle with time. But maybe not. Can you write down the things that you enjoyed with your T to help you look back on them, or does that cause you more pain? I haven't really figured out how to deal with my own feelings on this issue so I'm not sure I have much good to offer you. But I am listening. I do hear you. And I know it's a hard situation. HUGS if you want them. Kit.