Wishful, i tend to agree with you, except that im still living with them so i dont see the difference between when im staying with them and when i'll come for a visit once a week. it makes me feel my dad cant wait for me to be gone from their home. its hurtful.

and also, i dont think my mom should live like a statue from now on. i dont want to hurt her, but every now and then getting out of that house could make good to her spirit. but my dad doesnt understand this because he likes being home and he gets to exit even if just to do food shopping.

the maximum i can ask my mom is to lie down on the bed with me and watch some movie. i dont think this is hurting her and i dont ask anything else. i dont know. i think my dad is mad for both their condition and takes it on me. maybe he's scared of dying and would like me to be "adult" and settled but i dont think its my case. do the best i can, just please dont take it on me!