Hi bebop, We all make assumptions and flippant comments sometimes. None of us is perfect,including me. I feel guilty being on this forum without his knowing. I do tell him to leave me alone when he does that or push his hands away and get out of bed and smoke part of a cigarette. He's awake when he does it and knows what he is doing. I've tried to talk to him about consuelling but he refuses. I just can't figure him out. It's hard when you think you've know a person for that long and then they flip on you. Thanks,again Yiyii99