The problem is he is not changing the behavior even though you have told him it is unacceptable, which says that he cannot help himself. He has a serious problem. He cannot help himself from calling you names? There must have been hints of this before he worked from home, somehow? However, that's not the point. You're not only dealing with verbal abuse, but with someone who lies and who is unfaithful. Why would you want to stay with such a man? Because he is sometimes loving towards you? I say this with the greatest compassion, but do you hear what you're telling yourself?