I'm so sorry you're struggling, shyBoldgirl88 I understand how you feel. I feel like your boyfriend needs to take responsability for what's happening. I'd suggest to talk to him about this and see how it goes from there. Try to listen to his point of view if he has something to say. Maybe he does have a problem and he really is depressed. In that case I'd suggest to see a therapist. Maybe that could help. If he refuses to talk or to get help, then I think you need to seriously reconsider this relationship. After all, a serious relationship needs to have you both on the same page. Remember that you can only do so much to help, but the final decision is up to him. So don't stress yourself over it. Were there already signs of this or is it something that has only started recently? Either way, I'm so sorry. Please don't give up. I hope you'll be able to find a job soon. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this