Sooooo, my wondering/playing with the idea of not going wained.
I went. T brought up her not replying.

She said "I did reach out to you twice because i was concerned about you"

I replied "I know, but you also quickly obeyed my don't reply email"

T said "I am in no way shifting the blame here (she seemed very careful broaching this) but you are hard to read out of the room." she added "I think you think you say a, lot, but you don't. It's normally only a couple of words"

I actually did think I say more. But I was intrigued by her comnent. Obtuse comes to mind.
We talked about part of this is that I don't know what to ask for or how to ask for it.

But it's interesting hearing Ts experience of me.