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Originally Posted by shyBoldgirl88
So just in need of some advice...and to vent a little. My boyfriend of almost 3 years and I are in a really bad spot financially. He lost his job about 6 months ago and then guess what...I got laid off in December. We have been staying with his mom since we lost the place we were staying.
I have been frantically filling out applications and trying my best to get another job so we can leave his mom's house ASAP. He on the other hand stays up all night and sleeps all day. His mom is even getting aggravated with his lack of effort. I do all the laundry and try to help his mom in any way possible. He does absolutely nothing. I'm getting overwhelmed and feel as if I'm in this alone.
I feel bad because I've considered leaving him at his mom's house and breaking up with him due to the no effort and the fights we have been getting into. Like today for instance. He asked where I was going...I didn't hear him and he comes running out the bathroom screaming "why do you always ignore me?!" And "I'm always the bad guy." I tried to tell him where I was going but he went into a rant...so much so his mom came out of her room to see what was going on. As I walking out the door he threw something at me...not sure what it was.
I hate this behavior and it makes me feel totally different towards him. 3 years isn't that long and when we go through rough times in the future..is he going to just give up then too?
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thankfully his true colors are showing before you tied the knot. I mean what it seems like is that he's probably been a spoiled kid before you even met him and being at home with mom has brought that out of him. Maybe you've been lucky the 3 yrs prior has been (assuming it was) ok.
His behavior is not only that of a spoiled kid but also getting to the point of abusive. yelling at you loud enough to start an altercation and get his mother to have to see what's going on, then throwing something at you?
I think you have your answer to whether or not you should break up with him or not. That should actually not leave you with any question. If allowed to go on, it will, inevitably escalate and this is only a sign of what's to come in the future if you just let it pass.