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Originally Posted by ennie
Some people come across so nice, proper, and put-together (nicely dressed, eloquant with speech) that you don't realize who they really are until you become really close to them and know them for years.
Are you able to spot insincerity in people who come across so nice and proper? If so, how? I know there is no one-size-fits-all rule to this. But I would like some examples of moments in which you just got that "hunch," or that "gut feeling," that someone is not being sincere.
P.S. The goal here is self-growth. I want to become more sharp and discerning as my counselor told me to explore "the young part" of myself that trusted so easily and in turn, got taken advantage of in the past.
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If they are selling you something in a store they are not sincere. They will try to sell extra warranties etc. The big fake smile is a giveaway too, so big i look behind to see if there is someone else they actually know
In daily life a good clue is how they speak about others to you. If they are nice to someone's face and ***** about them, or make fun of them to you...ask yourself what might they say about you to other people behind your back. People who do that are not very aware. They do not think how their actions look when looked at from another angle
Look out too for people who tell you their problems but do not ask about yours
In my experience and i do not want to put you off most are not very sincere. They will take what they can get. People have had me do free work for them then when i asked for something they did not want to know. i dropped them
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Are you able to spot insincerity in people who come across so nice and proper? If so, how?
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i tend to ignore such people. Always ask yourself what do they want vs what are they giving. And see how they are if you need help. i am sick today with flu. people have told me call if i need anything. They are OK
I had a friend mean with money. He would watch what i buy and then want to borrow it or suggest i buy it so he could borrow it. Travel with me but not offer any thing towards fuel, not that i wanted it. the point is he was was sly. i dropped him
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P.S. The goal here is self-growth. I want to become more sharp and discerning as my counselor told me to explore "the young part" of myself that trusted so easily and in turn, got taken advantage of in the past
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how can you do that if you do not know they are genuine