Hello IcedGem, I am so sorry that you are experiencing this painful transition in your life. The end of a relationship can be very tough with feelings of loss, confusion, and sadness. I think it would be beneficial for you to take your former partner's words at face value. He said he needed to end the relationship and be alone for several reasons. I recommend that you take that comment as is, without questioning it or trying to change it. Whether he is depressed or not is for him to deal with in his own way as a single person now that he has decided to move on. I do not perceive anything "sneaky" about his statement as was suggested by someone else.

I recommend that you bring your thoughts and attention back to yourself. What do you need for yourself now? Are you dedicating time to self-care as you go through this painful transition? I think you need time to grieve the loss of this relationship and the loss of the future hopes and dreams you had with your partner. I do not think that trying to change your former partner's mind about the relationship would be the path to peace or happiness for you.

I am not negating your pain and confusion. It is a very painful situation when a relationship ends and I think you need to find a way to accept your partner's decision. Does that make sense? If you find the acceptance to be really difficult, I recommend talking with an experienced therapist. He/she could listen to your pain and confusion and help you to develop coping strategies while also being a source of comfort and support. I found therapy really valuable and comforting after an important relationship in my life ended.

You have my support. Try to remember that all feelings are temporary. You will not feel lost forever. Please be gentle and kind to yourself. You deserve unconditional love and a happy relationship...the fact that this one has ended only means that this is not the long-term relationship for you...it does not mean that you won't find lasting love in the future.