People here have posed some great questions and have provided some great advice and insights.

I am in a committed monogamous relationship (about to get married) and we don't discuss our attractions. I know they happen on both sides, but we definitely do not openly discuss an attraction we may have. I think that could be healthy perhaps once in a while and if done in a constructive way, like reinforcing your commitment to each other, but every single time and with every single attraction? I don't see this as truly benefiting the marriage.

I agree with others here that this may be causing tension in your relationship. If your wife asked you to disclose such attractions, perhaps that's why you're resentful of her? If not, perhaps it's because you really don't want to be monogamous, deep down, as your wife suggests?

Do you wish you had your freedom? Do you secretly want to act on your attractions? It's really hard to advise without more info.