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Originally Posted by HopefullyLost1211
For example, sexless marriages are quite common for various reasons. So, if a partner then goes outside of the marriage to meet a sexual need, then society castigates that person as "bad" or "wrong." The spouse may even say things like: "You ruined our life together." But nobody addresses the fact that it's a big problem when one spouse in a monogamous marriage wants sex and the other withdraws from it entirely or may even refuse to discuss the problem. Is an affair an ideal way to deal with a sexless marriage? No. But I also don't think it's reasonable to say that the spouse who was craving sex or intimacy didn't love their partner or suddenly turned into a bad person. If you see what i mean. Important to look at both sides as well as the relationship as a whole unit.
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I think though when you agree to marry and agree to be monogamous that its a sacred promise. Sexless marriages happen but then if a partner cant deal with that, they should make an exit. Just like if someone's spouse had cancer and was physically unable to engage in sex- it doesnt mean its ok for the other partner to look for it somewhere else. The act of infidelity lies squarely on the cheaters' back. it doesnt matter that the marriage was sexless, bad, good, whatever. Cheating is still a choice and that choice should not have been made if both partners agreed to monogamy. I am not saying you cant forgive someone who cheated. That is entirely up to the couple involved. I love my husband so very much and would be devastated if he cheated. I'd like to say I would kick him to the curb but how can you turn off love?