Ps. the "emotional affair" concept perplexes me. If two people aren't having sex or flirting or planning to have sex and they are just friends...what's wrong with that?? Why is that deemed an "affair?" I honestly don't understand that term. I've had plenty of male friends over the years. I enjoyed the company and so did they. I've read research on how friends of the opposite sex can enrich your life and I agree. My S.O. at the time always knew I ad male friends. My male friends don't flirt with me. I don't flirt with them. So what's this "emotional affair" thing about? An affair is having sex with someone else (or at least exchanging sexual words or suggestions). What am I missing? I'm curious to learn more though I admit that the term irritates me because it seems to suggest that men and women can't ever relate to each other without winding up in bed and I do not agree with that at all.