Icedgem,

I had a partner who got depressed through his divorce. I was dating him while he was separated. He did a 180 on me just after the divorce finalized, and just after talking about my moving to where he lived so we could have more of a relationship. He wasn't ready and he bailed on me suddenly. Just like that. I know it's not the same situation, and we weren't talking marriage or children, but I was devastated because we were making plans and I thought everything was going great.

I cannot possibly interpret where your boyfriend is at, but it is possible he feels completely overwhelmed by everything he's going through and facing.

I think it's good to give him the space he asked for.