I'll just add my two cents here as well....

People show respect to one another in a relationship by following through on things they say they're going to do. If I say I'm going to do the dishes or take out the trash, I'd better do it. Otherwise my words become meaningless, my promises, empty.

So if someone says they'd like X amount of time to figure things out and a person gives them X + Y amount of time and they are still not making headway or fulfilling their commitments to the other person, it's time for a serious rethink of the relationship and its future. Because today it may be about going abroad. But tomorrow it may be about other things of importance to a person, such as getting married, having kids, or moving to support a new job or something.

In short, if a person shows they are not capable of fulfilling their pledges to you, I'm not sure what I would be doing with that person long-term. While I don't believe in ultimatums, I do believe in living your own life. And if that other person doesn't want to be a part of the kind of life you want to live, that should never stop you from doing so on your own.

Good luck!