I agree that doesn't sound fair, ZenZeta. And yes, perhaps he's starting to show his true colors. I think you need to have a serious talk with him about this. It's kind of hypocritical of him to behave like this. So I think this is something worth discussing. I'd suggest to talk to him about this and see how it goes from there. If things don't seem to change, then I think you need to seriously reconsider this relationship. Like you wrote, you need to take care of yourself as well and it's not fair you're being treated like this. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you