That's what I'm struggling with, I suppose. How to say it diplomatically.

There has already been a bit of a harsh incident between us, fairly recently. I had stated my opinion on the "Baby It's Cold Outside" controversy--that it can be upsetting to those of us with sexual assault in our history. Most of the people who disagreed with me did so tactfully, but she started in on how people are too sensitive nowadays. Then she actually made fun of me, saying "Grandma Got Run Over By a Reindeer" triggers her because she's a grandma. I took the post down and unfriended her, but then she apologized and said she wasn't trying to be offensive. I decided to give her another chance. And I don't know if it's good to confront her again so soon, or else it might make me look like an oversensitive old bat who just harps about everything.

I can't avoid her because we go to the same church. I've often thought about changing churches, but my husband is not willing to do so, and I'd rather go with him than have us go to different churches.