I don’t think it will help to talk with her about it so much as it might be better to limit these topics of discussion and talk about things that don’t trigger you. Honestly, I think you might be triggering each other and, based on her feedback to you, I suspect she is also feeling frustrated with the interactions you guys are having. Maybe it would be good to step back a bit and keep conversations with her more neutral or positive. There might be other friends you can discuss your personal views with but she doesn’t share the same views as you. Unless you want to hear a contrasting or contradicting view, you will likely continue to feel annoyed at these discussions with her.