I'd advice to just tell the truth, Arbie. Yes, it isn't easy, and there's a risk she may feel hurt, but you need to take care of yourself as well. If you don't like to talk about this kind of topic with her, then just tell her so. Just try to be polite, but firm at the same time. I think you have every right to speak up. This is just my opinion, though. The final decision is up to you. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to you