Sometimes it takes us awhile to understand & accept the reality of the situation. I stayed in a bad marriage for 33 years. Until the last 13 years of that there were enough things I was getting out of it that didn't cancel the bad but just made it more tolerable. We have to get to the point there those things we are accepting as tolerable no longer are before we take action to end it.

The focus needs to be on why our level of tolerance is that great? Sometimes we don't even notice the behavior at first till it starts to become irritating, Self-respect, self-esteem, or sometimes just other priorities than dealing with it until no longer acceptable to us. Only we know what is going on internally that we need to analyze to help us take action sooner in the future