I'm glad you'll be seeing her next week. How about asking her for any concrete strategies she might have? In the meanwhile, maybe at least do not offer to put them up at your flat or spell out your location. If you really feel you've got to meet them, do it in a public place, like for coffee or something. I know you're wanting sex, but any chance of putting that to the side? (Am I remembering correctly that other times, you've *not* wanted that(??) Just messing around? Or am I thinking of something else?)