I think this may not be the right time for her, FearfulMother. If she's so scared of being pregnant, then perhaps it's best to avoid that route. If she still wants a kid, there are other ways, I believe - what about adopting one? Sure, it's not the same thing, but it sounds like a good option to me. Unless she absolutely wants a child of her own, I'd advice this to her and keep it into consideration. Childs and pregnancy are a serious thing that needs a lot of thinking, so if she has so many doubts I'd suggest to avoid it for the moment and maybe wait. I'm so sorry she's going through this