I have another take on it. It seems she genuinely cares about and wants your friendship. When a woman makes it clear she's not interested, she's truly not interested.
I have a close male friend whom I would call a best friend. We've said "I love you", we hug, have dinners, lunches, hang out... we've had many fights over the years and have not spoken yet always come back to our friendship. We are very good friends.
Some friendships endure fights that may normally break up a relationship because there is great value to that friendship. So I would take it all at face value: she cares about the friendship.
I would be more concerned about whether you have a secret interest in her and whether you are, deep down, hoping she has romantic feelings for you. You've said you love your girlfriend, but I know men, and typically in a platonic friendship the male wants more (in my experience). You've also mentioned that you probably would have her as a partner if you weren't in a relationship.
So are you harboring feelings for your friend and if so, what do you do about that?
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