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What a great post Aspiring Author! Well said! I agree that the issue is not whether someone wants casual sex or a committed relationship. I believe that is for each individual adult to decide. Casual sex is not a problem if it is "safe" and what consenting adults truly choose. It's not desirable or comfortable for some adults and that's okay too.

The real issue is this man's double standard, possessiveness, and disrespect. I would encourage ZenZeta to take a step back and ask if any interaction with that particular man is likely to enrich her life in any way...be it sexually or in some other regard. I also want to emphasize that the guy does not have a right to know how or with whom ZenZeta is spending her time.

Peace to you ZenZeta. I hope you find whatever you desire from a respectful man who honors your boundaries. There are some less than good guys out there but there are plenty of great ones too. You never know which wonderful person is right around the corner in Life!