I have to admit, it does concern me that her husband wanted an abortion and she went along with it. Did she not want the baby as well? Having kids is something you really need to think about for a long time before you have them.

I do not think she should try to get pregnant now if she is worried she will not want the baby later on in the pregnancy. Babies and children are something you have to be really sure about and 100% devoted to having. Pregnancy is the easy part.

I do not doubt that she is a wonderful person but it sounds like she has some serious fears or concerns over being pregnant. I am not sure its the best time until those things get figured out. Can she see a therapist?

Please urge her to reconsider for the time being. Trying to get pregnant is not the time to freak out. If she is freaking out then maybe she needs to wait. How does her husband feel about it?

No disrespect meant but deciding to get pregnant and wondering what would happen if you terminate the pregnancy at 25 weeks you have no business having a baby. Why wing it? Why think about bringing a child into the world with abortion being your backup plan? i want to be clear- I am prochoice for the most part so this isnt about me judging her for having an abortion but children are not something you hem and haw over. You decide to do it because you want a child and want to give them a loving home. I fear she may resent the baby. Imagine spending all that money on IVF only to consider abortion?

Fearing being pregnant leads me to believe she shouldnt get pregnant now. Why do that to yourself and then live in fear?