Thanks for sharing your tale, ECHOES. I understand better now. I know my T would suggest EMDR on this so you could get some relief. It is really effective for stuck situations and you seem stuck on this. Sometimes people do EMDR as an adjunct to their main therapy, with a special EMDR therapist. Would you ever consider this? Maybe it would only take a couple of sessions--wouldn't it be great to be past this?

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she never says she cares that I'm in such pain

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">ECHOES, have you asked for what you want? What would happen if you told her you wanted her to care that you are in such pain?

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Is it wrong for me to want that?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">No.