You are absolutely right making your mortgage first priority!!! Whew! That's all I want to say. I was on the edge of not paying my mortgage just for a few months and it was hell. In the end I got a deal with the mortgage company by threatening them with legal action, but it took years off my life fighting them plus left me with a big debt to pay back at the end of the mortgage term. (((((((((((((((Foofighter)))))))))))).
However, perhaps bear in mind that older people may see life from a different perspective to their children for all sorts of reasons = anxiety, their own stressors, their own painful mistakes in life. I "give unwanted advice" sometimes - and there may be lifetime wisdom behind it, or their may be my own feelings of neglect and hurt feelings.

I'm not a co-dependent any more, but I tend to relate to people who annoy by wondering if I ever behave in a similar way myself... and by asking why they are doing it. If the other person is well-intentioned, that might stop the annoyance. I did it yesterday and I worked.

Saidso