I have read a lot on it and read about signs that she might be a scammer, she doesn't really check any boxes. Maybe it is an elaborate scam on me but it is really elaborate. I bet there are easier marks, I can be difficult to talk to and am very hesitant with her. The time she has invested is substantial without asking for anything.

I try to avoid the 'all women' stereotypes. I have worked with women that had no interest in me other than being friends at work get really explicit sexually. Sexually aggressive women only surprise me when it is directed at me. She did seem surprised that she didn't need to send me anything sexual to get or keep my interest. I am more interested in who they are over what they can do for me sexually or otherwise. She sends those types of things less now that she realized it. I am not sure why she felt the need to begin with.

She has never asked for any explicit photos or videos from me, or even hinted at it. Nor would I. That would scare her away completely and I am not the type of guy to do that to anyone. She has gotten me to send her normal photos of me, which is stressful enough for me.

She has mentioned things she needs to do or are doing that require money but has never asked for money. I am thinking she might be a little bipolar, maybe closer to hypomania in the manic stages. Or maybe that is the waxing and waning of a normal person with a full time job and a child.

The only thing that really bothers me is that she is occasionally cold, not mean just cold. Maybe that is how she reacts to depression. I am socially inept and miss social cues with someone standing in front of me and this is much more difficult for me.

My daughters and a few of my sisters I have talked to about this, feel it might be worth seeing where it leads.

If she flies all the way to Siberia on her own ruble to get a visa just for a 10 day visit, isn't that a good sign?