DP,
It's complicated. And I know you and lots of other people on here and elsewhere in my life, including H, support me. I definitely value your and their support. I certainly don't only care about the support of T, by any stretch. It's just a different role; he represents something else to me. What jumps to mind is someone's teammates vs. their coach. I don't want to keep going on about it anymore, and I feel I'm doing a poor job of explaining, so just leaving it at that...