I had to ask my T more than once for helping me with avoiding something, to "push" me, in my words. I was very specific. He was reluctant to be pushy, saying that defenses are there for a reason, yada yada, sometimes there is wisdom in reluctance, blah blah. And afterwards when I was again deft at avoiding something, I asked him to push the next time. He checked in and asked the next time, "Is this the kind of situation where you want me to push?" Me, yes. It was just fine after he "pushed", really more just made a statement of encouragement, "you said you would like to move forward and say something more about this" and then just gave me space.

So in my experience, it was critical not only to ask for help with avoidance, but to ask again when he failed to do it. None of my T's have ever been pushy and like I think you are now, I just didn't want to stay stuck. I knew what the thing was I was trying to approach, and it was so very much better after I talked about it.