WOW! - that's a tough one...
But never the less what I see is a man that while wounded inside is still trying to sow his oats while having a life of security and family (kind of like having his cake and eat it too) and those two things do not usually go hand in hand...... never have never will as a family needs more than a fly by night husband / dad.

Has this "Joe" ever asked his wife (ex-wife now) if their relationship fell apart due to the fact that she felt abandoned by him when they spent all there time with his friends? - for while they may have been together physically they were still so far from one and other emotionally, as his true attention and love was for the event/game and direct more at his friends and not that of his once beloved wife.

Just a thought there..... IDK?