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his excuse is that that's just the way he is; that's the way he grew up, and if i loved him i won't try to change him and just accept him for what he and who he is.

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While it is true that this is how he was raised / grew up - it is still not a reason for him to remain this way...... for as one matures they usually tend to evolve into a mature adult and leave their childish manners behind.

BTW - it is not wrong to try to help one change if it is for the better of the person and the marriage.