I have read many of them and am wary but maybe it is worth the risk. I have more than enough income, more than twice what is required. I have never read about employment requirements but I am basically retired military so I doubt that is an issue.

I have let my daughters and a few sisters read a bunch of our chat logs and they think she is sincere and at least worth meeting. If she does visit, I will see if she really is more interested in me and my home life or going out more. She really hasn't asked or hinted for anything from me other than attention and we have many hundreds of hours of conversation.

I guess all I can do now is try not to screw things up, which is difficult, and see how a visit goes if it happens and go from there. This is really triggering my anxiety and paranoia and with further thought, I think I also need some distance as the poster who said I have 'too much of me' invested is correct. Socializing is very difficult for me and this is much more difficult.

I know I have been argumentative but if the bulk of responses gave me the green light I would argue against that. It is a personal failing. I really do appreciate the responses and time taken and will use the advice to hopefully navigate this properly.