You deserve so much better than that. I hope you can find the inner strength to follow your gut instinct and say no to her request. You will most likely be very hurt in the end. I think you know that as well. Like I said, you deserve better.

She might be a bit stuck but she is an adult and responsible for figuring this out for herself. She will be able to. It might not be easy for her but she will be ok. However, if you help her you may not be ok. I have followed your story a bit and she raises quite a few red flags. I wonder if you think it might be helpful to get a consult with another T for another perspective?