Thanks for your input Kathy. Yeah, it was "my bad" for not explaining fully. I'm glad I did. Seems when someone says "celebrity crush" they immediately think something "tame", silly and harmless.
I tried to beef it up by calling it an "obsession" but I think people still read it as a "crush".
One reason I am holding off though is that my wife is 43 and pre-menopausal. She is having to take some extra estrogen to balance out her moods with her cycle. That was only in the last couple of months though and this "obsession" has been on since last May. Not sure if this whole thing is girl's version of a mid-life crisis. If it is, does that mean we don't talk about it? Not sure on that.