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Originally Posted by MJLouise
Oh no/ I’m so sorry that’s aweful I just went through this. My dad had s subarachnoid aneurysm which burst stroked and caused a huge hemmorage. Surgeons fixed best they could plugging the spots or what ever they do. but he had vasospassims then a second stroke and was going to be permanently severely brain damaged with s tube in his neck and one in his stomach. The second stroke did too much damage. We took him off all life support and a sat and held his hand till he passed. This was in November. Did you have to sign the Do not resuscitate paperwork? I did it was aweful. I’m not going to be ok for a long time. I hope your siblings are at least supporting each other even if communication is bad. It’s just so hard. I was actually really glad I had started medication again right before hand.
Hope your ok. How old is your dad? Mine was 69 but our family lives to 80’s-100’s normally. I was not prepared. No one ever is I guess.
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I'm so sorry you went through this. I did not have to sign the DNR as he has a state guardian, appointed before they found us.
Oddly enough my father woke up from the coma Tuesday. THe hospital didn't call; I assume they wanted me to not cancel my visit. So we visited yesterday and it was really weird. He is on a vent so can only mouth words and nobody has been able to figure out what he's saying, just that he's trying. I did think I saw "I want a drink of water" but he doesn't nod or shake his head to confirm gueseses.
They are starting rehab and hope he'll go to a nursing home eventually. He has one carotid blocked 100% and the other 85% so another stroke is probably inevitable. His heart is also in bad shape. They are getting a DNR in place so next time he won't be trached or vented or have cpr
You are so brave to have stayed with him. I'm an OT and worked in nursing homes. I've been around death many, many times but could not face that in this situation. Granted I hadn't seen him in 20 years and had no relationship which also makes a difference.
I'm so sorry for your loss.