I'm so sorry you went through this. I did not have to sign the DNR as he has a state guardian, appointed before they found us.

Oddly enough my father woke up from the coma Tuesday. THe hospital didn't call; I assume they wanted me to not cancel my visit. So we visited yesterday and it was really weird. He is on a vent so can only mouth words and nobody has been able to figure out what he's saying, just that he's trying. I did think I saw "I want a drink of water" but he doesn't nod or shake his head to confirm gueseses.

They are starting rehab and hope he'll go to a nursing home eventually. He has one carotid blocked 100% and the other 85% so another stroke is probably inevitable. His heart is also in bad shape. They are getting a DNR in place so next time he won't be trached or vented or have cpr

You are so brave to have stayed with him. I'm an OT and worked in nursing homes. I've been around death many, many times but could not face that in this situation. Granted I hadn't seen him in 20 years and had no relationship which also makes a difference.

I'm so sorry for your loss.