Hey wmd, I was actually 17 (barely). But hindsight being 20/20 he was never like this in front of my husband, which leads me to believe he must have had some control over his temper.

He was an outstanding grandparent, the sun rose and set on my kids. My kids did get a glance of his temper right before he died. He was so frustrated about not being able to return to work and his heart was not cooperating. But miracle of miracles when he snapped at my daughter, he apologized.

He was a great man that had issues with his temper, but for some reason all of the horrible memories decided to visit me and I'm having trouble dealing with them right now.

Thank you so much for your support and advice bebop and Corky. I'm sure that I'll get through this, but I didn't see it coming so I was not prepared! (((((hugs)))))