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Originally Posted by weaverbeaver
I just want t to love me. I would do anything for her. I feel that if I don’t do this it will impact our relationship. I am extremely busy professionally and have had to set aside time every week but I am willing to sacrifice that.
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I am not trying to pick on you so please do not think that. What you have stated above is not healthy. You should not want your T to love you and you should be in the position of thinking you would do anything for her. If that is really how you feel than I am not sure what exactly you are looking for. You say she needs help not related to your therapy-and worry about saying no-but now you are saying you want her to love you and would do anything for her. I guess I am confused and no disrespect intended.
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There is some co dependency going on, I am trying to please her. She has been a big part of my life for the last 7 years. I would feel devastated with out her.
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This is very insightful.
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Sometimes, it feels like we are not working together therapeutically but more mutual friendship. I know that this is not the case and would probably disagree. She has shared a lot about her personal life and I know she is going through a very tricky situation and there are not many people she can really ask for help now. I offered before and she felt it wasn’t right so I know she is really stuck.
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I am sorry but she is taking advantage of you. Her personal life is of no concern to you. It is not your business but she made it your business. No, she isnt mean and abusive but she is behaving unethically and using her authority to manipulate you. You are trying to cope and develop healthy boundaries and she is blurring them.