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Originally Posted by Lrad123
The logical part of me is trying to understand what’s going on and I found this quote which I think explains pretty much exactly what he’s doing:
“The good-enough mother...starts off with an almost complete adaptation to her infant's needs, and as time proceeds she adapts less and less completely, gradually, according to the infant's growing ability to deal with her failure.” (Winnicott, 1953)
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I have repeatedly told my T not to do this to me and to allow me to naturally "outgrow" a need from her. I think for me, it seems more the need to have my T be a rock I can always return to and she'll welcome me with the same openness and level of support she always has. I equate it to the child that will initially stay right at mother's side, then slowly move out and explore the world. When something stressful happens, will return to the mother in a regressed form of needs. Knowing that I can always need her at whatever level or part of me needs her is a comfort. I feel this allows me to know that it's ok for a part of me to feel scared, vulnerable, and needy at that level and to see/learn how I could respond to that part in a compassionate way rather than being critical of it.
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Originally Posted by Lrad123
I had to look up the word truculently, Lol. Right now I’m strangely ok with his methods but I reserve the right to change my mind in a few days. Usually about 4 days post-session is when I start feeling all negative.
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Yes, this is what led me to increasing to 2 x a week and it did help there; the flip side was my transference became very strong, painfully strong for a while. It is not the same as it once was. I hope it helps you.
RE the no response to email. I think I would have a major problem with not getting at least what would be equivalent to an auto response indicating that the email was received/delivered. I think in the long run this would be a deal breaker for me. I'm glad to see that it is sitting ok for you as this is your therapy and what your needs are is what is important here.