Perna, you put forth a good model of how to terminate in a healthy way. I will try to keep that in mind when the time comes (not for quite a while, I hope). I have this pattern of rapid abandonment and "ditching" people, and I am determined not to do that with T, as we have a close relationship and out of respect for "us" (and for him), I want to do it "right", when the time comes.