all the more reason to cut them off. surely bending to their manipulations is only serving to encourage further manipulation. Being controlled is not something one should ever make a choice to be.

The longer you bend to their will and do what they want because of fear, the harder will become to leave.

here's the thing. walking away can only be a win win situation. First off, you'll give yourself the chance to break free from the manipulative dysfunction of your family. Second it will either - free you completely of their tyranny and/or will make them realize that you no longer will be manipulated and will change their ways but in the worst case, they remain steadfast in their behaviors, you still will be free of it by leaving.

It matters very little what people did for you in the past, if this is used against you in order to make you do what they want you to do it nullifies the acts themselves. If someone does something and makes it a selfish act in order to hold it over your head later, is that act even anything that is generous or caring in the first place? Therefore those things no longer hold power over you when you realize this. It is not an even and balanced relationship any longer it's one of obligation and tallies of actions. Idk about you but that's not how I handle or view a true friendship.