For everyone who asks about the parents, my friend's mom was usually busy watching over the younger kids, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, and talking to doctors about her other daughter's health problems. Aside from being busy, she's also rather loud, so even though she came in to check on us a few times (to offer food or whatnot), we could hear her coming. This happened midday at my friend's house, but it's just as easy that it would happen at my house after the parents go to bed.

I can't understand why people are so surprised that this could happen.

@SeptemberMorn: I can understand your concern. Kids at my age should usually be supervised, since they really aren't in control most of the time. Hormones will do that to them.

But to everyone who thinks this way, I believe I deserve a little credit.

I'd bet even if you were to tell my parents the whole story, they wouldn't blame hormones. I went through puberty early, and save for problems with PMS (recently solved through birth control), I've really learned excellent self-control by this stage. I can't recall any instances that would evidence this, so you'll just have to take my word.

Hormones aren't really what I wanted to discuss, anyway, so let me try to stifle any accusation of "hormonal teenager."

I must say that doesn't seem like the problem, since I knew my limits beforehand and didn't regret anything afterward. I didn't do anything "in the heat of the moment." If hormones were responsible for this behavior, wouldn't their hold on me worn off by now, leaving me feeling regret? And considering I don't like these boys or ever had sexual thoughts about them, I just doubt my hormones are out of control.

@LMo, I can definitely see where people would be worried if I weren't in control or couldn't say no. It makes more sense to worry about that than having co-ed sleepovers (at least in my case). My friends all know that I have no problem being in control. Through everyday interaction, I've established myself as someone who is strong-willed. I place myself above any of my friends, so I wouldn't do it for their acceptance. I realize that's dumb and unsafe.

Continuing on my theme of "I'm my first priority," I definitely would have a plan if things didn't go as intended. I'd rather shatter my parents' trust than risk my body and health. If things got out of control, I would have enough sense to go to them.

It's nice to have an opinion on my lack of guilt. I knew I could do what I did, and I assumed that I'd have some sort of "built-in" guilt mechanism to tell me I was wrong. But I didn't regret anything, and neither did at least two of my friends. And it's comforting to know that someone else doesn't consider it wrong.

If there's anything else that needs clarification, let me know.