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Jan 25, 2019, 06:55 PM
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I also said "(or what they don't like)".
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Originally Posted by Background Noise
... but when parents start to treat their children's mistakes (or what they don't like) with abuse and destructive criticism, what would they expect to happen? ....
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It was a general statement. I don't know what mistakes I did as a child. I don't remember. I am sure I made mistakes, but nothing children don't do. But I was physically punished for things like playing outside on school days. For not studying. For not scoring A+ at school (yes, I was punished for scoring B+ and A). For speaking when we had adult visitors ... etc.
The point is how parents treat their children is very important in all circumstances because we expect from them support and love as children. Until this day, and I am in my late 30s, my father treats me like a 5 years old, with commands, and yelling and criticism. His excuse is that he wants me to be successful, and till this days he says that "the ends justify the means", and there was no other way (he means the punishments/beating and criticism), except his way didn't work, because I am struggling in life, and far from successful because of how he has treated me. I am closer to a failure if I am not one.
With all of what he has done, he wishes to give himself a free pass that he was/is allowed to abuse me because he is my father, and I should accept his abuse and obey him and respect him all the time!!
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