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He got mad at me once in the beginning of our relationship because my roommate had her male friend spend the night at our apartment. He told me he better not be sleeping in my room or else he’d snap his neck. Later on when I confronted him about this, he said he trusts me, he just doesn’t trust other guys because “how could they not fall in love with me?” A few months later, he went to dinner with a girl that stayed in his apartment over a vacation because she had nowhere else to go. Told me I was overreacting to it. That it was just a “thank you” for letting her stay with him.
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Double-standard.
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I get nervous during sex sometimes and once I had a hard time getting into it and he got so frustrated and upset thinking I wasn’t attracted to him that we actually got in a fight about it when that wasn’t the case at all.
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Fragile ego, explosiveness.
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Another time was during the summer, I hadn’t seen him in a couple days and was hanging out with friends I had not seen in months. I invited him to hang out and he called me screaming about how I could’ve come out with him instead of with my friends.
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Indeed you dodged a bullet when he broke up with you.
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The call kept dropping and he just got angrier and angrier until he told me he had punched a hole in the wall and his knuckles were bleeding/phone was broken. He had covered the hole up with a painting the next time I came over. It took him 3 months to finally fill it, but he waited until I was in the room to watch him patch it up,
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Had you stayed with him, he could have eventually punched YOU.
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We ended up breaking up that day, his reasons were he didn’t see us together in 50 years, that I didn’t have a plan for my life and was a little “lost”. BUT EARLIER “how could they not fall in love with me?”
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So to make sure I got it right - something happened and he punched a hole in the wall. He waited for three months and then invited you over to watch how he patched it up with paint and then broke up with you. And he told you that he did not see the two of you together in 50 years and that you did not have a plan for your life and that you were a little lost. But if all of that had been true in his mind, he could have patched the hole in his wall solo, without making you a force spectator - you realize that, right? So he likes drama - it is a very dramatic event to invite your girlfriend to watch and then break up with her, deriding her all the way.
Now imagine that you had broken up with him. Imagine yourself telling him that he does not have a plan for himself, that you do not see the two of you together in 50 years, that he has an explosive temperament, is inconsiderate and disrespectful with strong abusive tendencies, and you do not see him as having a positive impact on your life. And you walk away. Picture it, say it in your mind, and witness how "lost" his face looks when he hears that. How does it feel imagining yourself being in control as opposed to being on the receiving end of his decision to break up with you?
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