There's so much out there about parenting that I'm surprised that your parents didn't hop on the bandwagon to read or learn at least one thing So sorry that your father believes that the only way to get his point accross to you is to raise his voice to you. Especially now that you are an adult. Hopefully you can limit your visits with him?
You could remind him to be careful how he treats you, as you'll get to choose his nursing home? :\