My Support Forums - View Single Post - People being hateful during conversations

BonsaiGuy · Jan 26, 2019, 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by ruby2011

I'd be having a conversation with people and it starts out pleasant, but then mid-way, I'd ask a question and they'd say it's none of my business. Or otherwise act uncomfortable. I'll give one recent example.

Backstory: Our supervisor lives with his GF and 3 kids. At work (fast food), during downtime, a coworker asked the supervisor if just [name] is his only kid.

Him: biologically, yes. The other 2 are [girlfriend's name].
Me: Does [ex wife] have any more kids?

At that point, he paused before saying yes she does but it's really none of my business.

I asked him why he talked to me that way. He said I just asked him a question about his ex-wife.

Me: I was just making conversation!

People don't seem to like it when I ask questions. But in conversations, people usually ask questions and make comments, right? Is there some kind of double standard?

It doesn't sound like he is being hateful, you simply crossed a boundary of his that he wasn't comfortable with you crossing. He made it clear that you crossed the line and that should have been the end of it.

I, for one, will become very taken advantage of or upset if some crosses a boundary that I had previously set. I usually don't get upset if I they don't know it's a boundary (as in your case), but if they do and insist on crossing it, I will respond very firmly at the disrespect.