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Originally Posted by pixielouwho
Hi, I will try to make this not horribly long. My husband has had a hard time dealing with my mental and physical issues, and has several times vented his frustration and anger on me, despite my asking him to find a therapist or support group to help him instead. He briefly went to therapy and supposedly joined a support site. This has gone on probably close to a year. We had a big blow up a month ago, and I told him when my back fracture healed I was going to go visit my parents out of state for a short time. He leapt to the conclusion that I was leaving him, though I hadn’t decided that really, and he proceeded to initiate a relationship with a woman he did computer work for. All behind my back, until I found some texts from her. It wasn’t sexual but likely would have been eventually. He has ended it with her and wants to save our marriage. I honestly haven’t decided what to do, and my depression,anxiety,anger are out of control. Cried nonstop yesterday. Any comforting words are appreciated.
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I am really sorry that this happened to you. It sounds like he was WAY out of line. I know it's really hard to do, but the one piece of advice that I can give to you is try to be gracious and forgive him for acting so poorly. Understand that you deserve better and that this certainly wasn't a healthy or proactive measure that he took. However, if you let this eat at you than it will continue to do so. By practicing forgiveness you can move on and not dwell on this anymore. I know this is hard, but for me it has proven to be one of the most helpful things. I had a fiance that cheated on me. I was emotionally stuck on her behavior for almost a year until I realized that I needed to forgive her and move on. Forgiveness does not equal forgetting the pain someone caused you. It does, however, untie you from the leash that hatred brings.
I hope this came out OK and was somewhat helpful!
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Dx: Bi-Polar II, PTSD, ADHD, SUD
Rx: Methadone 100mg, Lamictal 300mg, Abilify 10mg, Buspar 40mg, Clonadine 0.3mg, Trazodone 50mg, Nexium 20mg, Allegra 180mg
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