As someone who has been where you are and then made the mistake of having a dual relationship, I offer this advice out of genuine concern, and with hope that it will prevent you from the agony I had to endure when I came out of the fog.

You have a history of trauma. As a trauma victim, myself, you will need to learn to make your own choices for your best interest. And I think you can.

It might be good to ask yourself what are your deepest fears if you don't help your therapist. You've talked about wanting to leave this relationship in past threads. What do you want for your future? In 5 years, what do you want your life to look at?

Myself, I got lost in the fog and the relationship. I'd give anything for all the time I gave my T back. I wish I had invested all that time into myself and my own therapy and healing. Now I find myself older, and I still need to do that work. The fog was part of my own avoidance. The real work is hard. But it does get better.

Again, I hope I make sense. I struggle with words since the TBI.