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Originally Posted by ruby2011
That makes sense. Btw, I went in and talked with him today. I said Im sorry I had an attitude with him that day. He didnt feel like I had an attitude! I then said it really hurts that nothings ever my business.
He: just dont ask anything personal.
Me: I dont know whats personal or whats not.
He then said something this personal should just be avoided. Now I understand the degree of personal around that topic. He said he aint mad (I asked); yesterday is over. At that point, drive thru started ordering on his headset.
Crisis averted. Idk why I worry so much about pissing people off. Im paranoid AF. So srsly, what is personal and in what situation is it personal? How do people pick up on the nuances? Cuz I swear I discussed exes with friends (my exes and theirs) outside work before.
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Ruby, yes, crisis averted for now, but I think you may still be making the assumption that supervisors can be friends. We can ask friends about their ex's but not someone at work. You are learning what boundaries mean especially at work.
We must always maintain professional boundaries, especially with our supervisors. This is an area where you have trouble. You pushed the boundaries with a supervisor and got yourself fired. Then you acted out in another workplace, crossing boundaries with your language on the sales floor where supervisors could hear you. Now you ask your supervisor about his ex wife.
I understand that it may hurt when someone tells you to mind your own business. That CAN hurt. But you are also assuming that your supervisor is on a friendship level with you when they're not.
I would speak with your support worker more on what professional boundaries are and mean. We cannot treat our supervisors like we would a friend.