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I am in the same boat. Have rusty social skills and at the bottom of everything. Even when I receive a phone interview for a job, I am expected to be extrovert and funny ... etc, which I am not. When people say be yourself, I think they mean not to think too much. I have found that I overthink things, and that's why I probably mess things up. But I cannot help it. It's anxiety-induced and anxiety-inducing at the same time, if that makes sense.
But I agree, there is a preference in the world towards extroverts, and people who are not very sociable don't get the same share as sociable people. I would say, being sociable and extrovert is more import than being competent when interviewing for a job (I am using the job example, because I am seeing its effect in my life in that domain these days). I think it's true for many things as well, like romantic relationships.
People are usually judged by their social skills the first thing. For some reason, it's a bad sign, and it tends to affect the total judgment of a person. It's called the halo effect in psychology.
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